At the risk of being stoned by my fellow foxy females, I feel compassion for men sometimes. For instance, it must suck to have to wait behind the velvet rope to get in a club. Hot girls never do that. And what about free drinks? Men seldom get them. Hell, I even get free French fries if there happens to be a boy working the drive through window! And how often does a woman offer to pump your gas just because you’re cute? Doesn’t it sound fun to be hot? Well, it is…until the guy pumping your gas reaches into your window and tries pump something else! Too bad that guy was a lunatic because he was on the right track with offering to pump the gas!

How do you get a girl? First of all, no one can get anyone they want. If you really believe this, chances are you will be so intimidated by her that you will act like a dork in her presence. You will be so insecure in a relationship with this type of woman that you will sabotage it with your own imaginings. I was once in a relationship where this was a big issue. The sad part is, I truly was devoted to him, and he never got to enjoy it. His insecurities robbed him of my love. He just couldn’t handle it. Don’t be that guy! It breaks my heart, still (yes, hot girls have feeling too!).
I am not writing this article to help anyone get laid (Sorry, thats next week ;-). But if you want some advice on how to approach your dream girl, and win her heart…read on.

Start with yourself! Get your-self esteem up. Women find confidence very attractive. If you try to fake your cool with a few martinis, or put on your “drinking balls” shall we say…women will see through it. Get yourself healthy mentally, physically and spiritually. You will exude sex appeal when you are in a good place.

The best advice I can give, is don’t be a “pig”. We know boys will be boys, but please try to control yourselves in our presence. It is not that we aren’t sexual ourselves. We just need to see you trying to make a good impression…that you care what we think. We need you to respect us! Hot girls are often seen as sex objects. Try to get past the physical attraction and focus on getting to know what is inside of her (I mean in her heart, not her pants). Does this sound too difficult? Here is a little trick: ask her about herself. Pets, our favorite charity or clothing are good subjects. If you are dating, ask her what it was like for her growing up. While she is talking to you, stare into one of her eyes. Only one eye! That will keep you focused on the most expressive part of her body, and your mind focused on what she’s saying. Your gaze won’t lower momentarily to her breasts and your mind won’t fantasize on how firm-yet-soft they are. She won’t know you are staring at one eye, she will just feel the intense interest you are showing in her. She will feel your self-confidence and not sense your insecurity. Confidence is what makes a man sexy to a woman. Keep gazing into her eye, and listen to what she has to say… and soon you’ll be kissing her softly, then passionately, and your hands will caress every part of her body, as her hands will yours. Just remember, she may be able to get almost any man she wants, but right here, right now, she wants only you.

Carrie Stevens

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