September is an especially difficult month for men, with all of our focus on getting our kids ready for the new school year. Why not give the big boy in your life a little extra attention this month? Teach him some lessons he won’t soon forget. Put on a sexy school teacher costume, blast some vintage Van Halen, swing around a pole Sheila E. Kelley style… or if that sounds too wild, just print him a copy of these modern day lessons on handling the HotMom!

Lesson 1: Text Messaging
Do not use this means of communication to ask a girl out on a date, to ask how she is doing or as a substitute for a conversation. This seems to be the new trend with men. I can’t tell you what a turn off this is to me, and how many guys have changed my previously charmed mind, with resorting to this lazy, and downright cowardly form of communication. A woman wants a man to want to hear her voice. We want to feel like our man is our knight in shining armor and would risk his life for us before even knowing us (don’t blame us, blame Sleeping Beauty or Shrek). If you can’t risk a phone call, you can’t possibly be Prince Charming. Text messages are fine for short sweet words like “thinking of you”, “love you”, or when it is inappropriate to speak, such as in a business meeting or a movie theatre.

Lesson 2: Stop the Insecurities
It seems that men get intimidated by Hot Moms. Some men I talk to don’t even like the term “HotMom”. They immediately get defensive. They think we are online converting nice homely housewives into horny whores who will leave the family and turn up on Montel Williams with a lesbian lover. No! A HotMom is an empowered woman who loves herself, cares for her family with zest, and without compromising her femininity…nothing to do with our looks. If you are a man reading this, chances are you think the woman that gave this article to you is beautiful. Don’t be intimidated by it! Let me explain something, where all you see is exquisite beauty, she sees her tiniest flaw. Here is a little trick: if a man can learn to look at a woman the way she looks at herself in the mirror, and then he’ll no longer be so intimidated by her.

Lesson 3: Respect our Role
Whether you are married to a mom or in a relationship with a single mom, respect her role as a mother ahead of everything else. Do not call, and don’t you dare text her…for a date at 5 PM on a Saturday and ask her out for dinner the same night. We need some advance notice! Making a reservation or offering to pay the nanny are nice touches. And please, please don’t get jealous of the kids. You might hate me for pointing this out… but men have been jealous of their own son’s since the beginning of time (just ask William Shakespeare!). Understand that our children are part of us, as if we share souls. Never put a lady in a position where she has to choose between the children and you. The love a mother has for a man is very different from the love she has for a child. No need to be competitive, there is enough for you all. A good tip for you is: the way to a woman’s heart is through her children. We love our alone time with you and we crave the romance, but it would just melt our hearts to have you consider the kids.

I hope I have been of some help. Have a great September!

Carrie Stevens
 

Carrie is the proud single mother of her son, Jaxon (4). Carrie is an actress, model, televsion host and writer. She has appeared on big screen and small with celebrities such as Emmy Winner Jennifer Aniston, and Oscar winner Hilary Swank. Carrie was Playboy's Miss June 1997.
www.carriestevens.com
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